Did you ever throw a party, but the crowd never comes??? Don’t despair! The small group who shows up still craves a good time. As the host, you should appreciate the opportunity to have a spontaneous intimate gathering instead of a huge party. Conversations get deeper and introductions are easier with a small group. Be the gracious host and thank everyone for coming, especially during this time of the year where people are often double-booked.
Brini Maxwell
The lovely Brini Maxwell is having a holiday show at Fez (380 Lafayette St) next Monday, December 20th.
From Flavorpill:
With Martha Stewart unavailable to dispense social etiquette advice this holiday season, what’s a dilettante reveler to do? Fear not! Brini Maxwell sashays to the rescue, bearing helpful hints and making sure you don’t embarrass yourself under the mistletoe. Dubbed the “Martha Stewart of Drag” back when that was considered a compliment, Ms. Maxwell hosts her own Style Network show, disseminating kitsch to America, one tasteless home at a time.
Double-Booked = Twice The Fun
During the holidaze, you may be invited to more than one event on the same night. Try to coordinate so that you can attend both. This is good for many reasons:
1.Keeps both hosts happy!
2.Meet two different sets of people
3.Be the center of attention twice in one night
4.Show how popular you are by leaving one party early and arriving at the other late
5.No one will know how much you ate, drank or flirted at each party (unless you blog about it)
Being A Good Party Hostess Is Cupcake
What I have gleaned from watching the fabulous in action:
—Have plenty of booze at your party
—Invite a diverse group of people
—Make friendly introductions
—Make grilled cheese sandwiches
Tips For The Tipsy
Man-about-town Manhattan Transfer (now ClusterStock’s John Carney) has provided a classic guide on how to survive holiday parties.
Here’s one of his gems of wisdom:
Scenario 1: You can’t remember the name of the co-worker you are making out with in the supply cabinet.
Try to keep her mouth occupied in ways other than talking. If necessary, call her “baby” and “beautiful.” In my experience you should never resort to “mami” unless you are of the Latin persuasion. The fact is she probably doesn’t remember your name either. Unless you are her boss. Then you’re fucked.
Netiquette or Social Graces for Techies
The Social Graces are not a myth. Despite the rude behavior of many, there are some rules, and the graceful Sloane Crosley gives us New Yorkers the skinny on “technetiquette“. [Published in 2004, this Village Voice article is still relevant. I added my notes in the brackets.]
1) Ideally, don’t use Evite. Send out a mass bcc’ed e-mail or pdf or invites on dead trees. If you somehow feel inexplicably drawn to the Evite, drop the irony act and make it as basic and functional as possible.
2) Forwards. Sloane proposes we use mass forwards for emergencies only. [With the current 2008 economic crisis, sent forwards if you may homeless, jobless or hungry. Your friends will help.]
3.Texting. Keep it simple, skip the conjunctions and the run-on sentences and remember that texting is more closely related to phoning than e-mailing.
4)Camera Phone. “It’s just a picture. Why not?” [Well, I think you should get picture approval if the pictures are going online anywhere. Or you can just stay at home.]
Update: Sloane is now author of collection of essays, I Was Told There’d Be Cake.
The Best Guest
Here are a few tips that I have garnered from parties of late:
·When bringing a bottle of wine to a house party, look for wine with a funny name like Fat Bastard or Woop Woop. Your hosts will remember you!
·Be sure to greet the host and other guests before making a mad dash to the bar area.
·Play a fun game like Taboo at the party, but don’t get too hung up on winning. People tend to get competitive. Apples To Apples and Boggle are also fun games.
·Don’t reciprocate when a drunk-but-cute guest flirts with you in front of his girlfriend. (He will need assistance getting home, so let the girlfriend handle the bastard.)
·Offer to prepare a dish, but make sure it’s delish!
·Thanks your hosts and think of inviting them to your next bash if you have an apartment that fits more than you and your roommate.
What’s It All About? Party Themes
Need a theme for your holiday party?
Here’s a few suggestions
*Tree Trimming Party (popcorn, cranberries, homemade ornaments)
*Christmas Lights Walking Tour (walk off a heavy meal and take great photos)
*Gingerbread House Party (baking and building)
*Cookie Exchange Party (or cupcakes and fudge)
*Winter Wonderland Party (the ultimate white party)
See more at this site.
Wrong on So Many Levels
Here’s some tips to prevent “career limiting moves” at the holiday office party.
Don’t hit on a stranger. It just might be – and has proven to be at some holiday gigs – the boss’ spouse or significant other.
And, of course, “don’t fall down,” Thomas notes. “Falling down drunk is not good.”
Read the entire article here.
Serena Bass at the W Hotel
Serena Bass will be speaking on December 13 at the W Hotel. Serena is one of the ultimate event and party planners.